Are you a Victim or a Change Maker?

Are you a victim or a Change Maker?

Life is unpredictable. It is a simple reality that every now and then life throws us a curve ball, knocking us completely out of whack.

These curve balls can range from being mildly inconvenient and disruptive, to life altering with devastating effects.

Whether a situation affects you personally, professionally, financially or medically, we always have two choices when deciding how to deal with the problem.

We can either give up when things get difficult or we can use these challenges as a way to rise up and make a change for the better.

When faced with a storm we have two choices.

I have been fortunate enough to meet many amazing people and I am consistently inspired by those who have taken their challenge in their stride, risen up and turned their lives around after losing everything.

Here are four simple steps you may like to embrace when life has thrown you a curve ball and you’re ready to look that challenge in the face and make positive change.


1: Make time to process.

It is important to give yourself some time to process what has happened.

If you need to grieve, then grieve. If you need to sleep, then rest. Every one of us has different needs and processes events differently, so it’s also important not to compare yourself with others during this time.

Take some time out to process the situation.

Sometimes it can be harder to move forward if we don’t first give ourselves time to mentally process the challenging event or situation.

It is important to note that we don’t always have the luxury of time and some situations may require immediate action, leaving little time for personal processing.

If you can, even just a few moments to breathe in and think can help you make better decisions moving forward. Whatever time you can spare, use it.


2: Accept the situation.

This is possibly the most difficult yet it is an essential step.

You simply cannot move forward properly if you are in denial over what has happened.

This does not mean you have to accept what has happened as being fair or just.

You just need to breathe in, accept that this challenge is here and you will begin to see more clearly what steps you need to take next as you are no longer clouded by the fog of denial.


3: Plan.

Once you have processed and accepted the curve ball to the best of your ability, it’s time to make a plan.

By laying your options out, you will have a better idea of which direction to take.

Start by thinking about what outcome you want to see from this situation and begin writing a list of ways you might get there.

Take some time to look at your options and write down the pros and cons of each one. You may see that some paths are more beneficial to tread than others.

From there you will be able to see more clearly how to best consider your circumstances and move forward.


4: Don’t give up.

Be persistent., Now that you have a plan it is important to see it through.

Yes, there may be a few changes along the way but all that matters is that you keep moving towards your end goal.

It might be difficult and it may feel impossible at times but just keep going. Even if you can only manage to move at a slow pace, that’s OK! You are still on your way to overcoming your curve ball and moving towards a place of strength.

Remember, it’s also OK to ask for help. You don’t have to go through this alone and a trusted friend or relative you have helped in the past may love to return the favor and stand by your side.

Having someone by your side can help you get through the hard times and celebrate the good in life.

By processing the situation, accepting it, making a plan and not giving up, you will be better equipped to take back control of your life.

Choosing a change maker mindset over a “why me” mindset, you are already on your way to turning a life changing curve ball event into an opportunity to grow in strength, wisdom and resilience.

You have everything you need to succeed inside of you right now. It’s time to realise your strength.

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