As we leave 2018 behind and enter a brand new year in a flurry of well-intended resolutions, it helps to sit back and examine the year that was and assess our current situations and picture changes we would like to make in the new year.
Over the last few weeks I have met a number of people who are at a crossroads in their lives. They realise that something in their life needs change, whether that be personally or professionally, and they are faced with multiple options, unsure with road to take.
Whilst the needs of these people have all been vastly different, they all have one common denominator: confusion.
Many people at a crossroads simply don’t know which way to go or have a hundred jumbled thoughts swimming around in their head, leaving them so overwhelmed that they find themselves unable to proceed with their desired change.
It is a shame that being confused can stunt our growth especially since the solution is so simple.
I am going to walk you through three steps that will help clear the confusion and help you on your way to creating the life you want to live.
Have a clear picture of the reason why you want to change and ask yourself why you find yourself at a crossroads.
Do you want to work towards being able to work from home? Maybe your goal is more health and fitness oriented. Whatever change you want to make, be honest and ask yourself why you want to make it.
*Disclaimer* When visualising your desired change, don’t try to make it perfect! The quest for perfection can actually hinder your ability to achieve your goals and puts you under an unhealthy amount of pressure.
2: Possible Options
Think about the things you have done in your life so far that you have really enjoyed, or something you have been proud to achieve.
On individual bits of paper, write down the pros and cons of each item. Be completely honest with yourself. You may have done something fantastic but the down side could have been sacrificing your down time or spending time away from your family.
Write it all down, the good, the bad and the ugly: sugar coating will not help you here.
In being honest, you might notice certain things have more cons than pros, and that you would be better off cutting it out of your life.
On the flip side, some things may have an abundance of pros and you may find yourself wanting to explore these things more often.
Now that you have a few bits of paper with pros and cons, measure each thing against “why” you envisioned in step one.
Some items will not fit with this vision and can be eliminated, while others will resonate with what you would like to achieve and can be explored further.
You may find one shining beacon that stands out above the rest and may decide that this is the one thing you want to pursue.
Alternatively, you may have two or three fighting for your attention, leaving you unsure of which to choose.
Instead of fretting over picking just one, consider how you might combine these together to make them work for you and your vision.
For example, if you have an interest in gardening and flowers as well as dreaming of doing a business course, you may combine these two and look into starting a florist business.
Of course, every one of us is different and there are infinite possible combinations, but it is a matter of finding what will work for you and bring you closer to your goals.
Alternatively, if you cannot choose between two options or they do not mesh well together, compare them against each other. You may find one shines more brightly than the other or one of them has more cons than pros.
Crossroads can be a difficult time. Many people stunt their growth by standing still in fear of making a mistake. This is a logical and valid fear and is not something to feel ashamed about.
The advice I offer those of you with fear is you have nothing to lose by having a go. If you make a mistake, ask how you can learn from it and move on.
You will feel in your heart if the step you are taking is the right one.
If you try this and it works, please let me know, I would love to hear from you!