There is something powerful about the fresh blank page of a brand-new year.
All of us have the ability to decide what we bring with us into this year and what to leave behind in 2020.
No doubt the challenges of last year have impacted our health, mental well-being and happiness in many different ways, but we have the power to stand up and leave some things behind.
Here are eight things to leave in 2020 so we can step into 2021 from a place of strength, purpose and grace.
1: Idle time wasters.
We’ve all done it. Opened up Facebook or Instagram, started scrolling and next thing you know half an hour has passed.
Time is incredibly powerful, so if you are serious about the goals you have set for yourself this year, it is time to get rid of things that eat away at your time.
There’s nothing wrong with scrolling through social media, but make sure you allocate a specific amount of time for scrolling and stick to it.
Whether you think you can do something or not, you’re right.
Easier said than done, but the more you practice having faith in your own abilities, the more likely you are to succeed.
If you find it difficult to stop doubting yourself, try and think of a time where you excelled at something. It could be a project you did really well, a goal you reached or maybe even a time where you kept your cool when you really wanted to yell at someone.
We have all done amazing things, and the more you acknowledge your own abilities, the more you will succeed.
3: Habits that hold you back.
In 2021 we don’t have room for bad habits that stop you from fulfilling your potential.
Bad habits come in every possible form imaginable and look different to each individual, so take a few moments to note down your three worst habits and a few steps on how you could improve.
It can take a while for us to break a habit, so keeping a track of your progress on a calendar will help you see how far you’ve come when you feel like giving up.
By removing a bad habit you are making room for better things. You deserve to give yourself that chance.
Nothing holds you back quite like perfectionism.
Waiting for the “right time” to do something or obsessing over something until it is “perfect” cements you in place and stops you from moving forward.
In order to succeed we need to make mistakes. By doing the best you can and acknowledging that it might not always live up to perceived perfect standards, you will give yourself the opportunity to keep on trying, learning and moving.
5: Negative self-talk.
You wouldn’t accept someone saying bad things to your face, so why accept this kind of talk from yourself?
Sometimes you have to be your own best friend, and by shifting the way you talk to yourself you can drastically improve your chances of success, as well as your well-being.
By changing negative thoughts into ones that are helpful, positive and constructive, you will nurture yourself as you learn and grow.
6: Toxic people.
Whether they’re friends, family or colleagues, leave them in 2020.
You may not be able to avoid these people entirely but if you try to emotionally distance yourself from them as much as possible that can only be a good thing.
Don’t feel guilty about this either. You need to look out for yourself, and if the people around you aren’t supportive and nurturing then it’s time to find new people.
We all do or say things that we regret.
Instead of regretting these moments for years to come, see them as a chance to improve your behavior next time.
Guilt can hold you back if you obsess over it, but by using it as a tool to do and be better, you will build resilience and improve your relationships with others as well as yourself.
8: People pleasing.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with making others happy. It is a blessing to be able to bring joy to someone else’s day, but if your need to please people comes at the expense of your own health and happiness then it is time to learn to say no.
Saying no to people will free up time for yourself, to relax, rest, heal, work on a project that matters to you or simply just be.
Life is too short to carry around unnecessary baggage and time wasters.
By leaving these things behind in 2020, you will give yourself room to grow and expand into your full potential, as well as find calmness, peace and contentment.